Do I Need Help
If you’re here wondering whether what’s happening to you is abuse, assault, or something that just “doesn’t feel right,” know this — you’re not alone, and you don’t have to face it on your own.
Hill Country Crisis Council provides free, confidential services to anyone impacted by domestic violence, sexual assault, or abuse. Our advocates are here to listen, support your choices, and help you find safety and healing — one step at a time.
All calls and conversations are private. You can reach us anytime at 888-621-0047.
Sexual Assault
Understanding Consent
If there was not consent, it was sexual assault. For a sexual act to be consensual, all three of the following must be present:
- Age – You must be of legal age. In Texas, the age of consent is 17 years old.
- Capacity – You must have the ability to give consent. If you were impaired by alcohol, drugs (illegal, prescription, or over-the-counter), or unconscious in any way, you did not have the capacity to consent.
- Verbal Consent – Consent must be clearly spoken. Silence or the absence of “no” does not mean “yes.”
Common Questions
- I had sex with him before, but didn’t want to this time — Yes, that’s assault.
- I was flirting or wearing a short skirt, but didn’t want to have sex — Yes, that’s assault.
- I changed my mind and said so — Yes, that’s assault.
- I pushed away but stopped resisting — Yes, that’s assault.
- I was drunk and didn’t participate — Yes, that’s assault.
- We’re married, but I didn’t consent — Yes, that’s assault.
- I didn’t say “no” out loud — Yes, that’s assault.
Getting Medical Help
If the assault happened within the last 120 hours (5 days):
You can receive a Sexual Assault Forensic Exam (SAFE) — even if you’re unsure about reporting to law enforcement. This exam helps protect your health, prevent disease and pregnancy, check for injuries, and collect evidence that can be stored for up to 5 years should you decide to report later.
If it’s been more than 120 hours:
You can still receive a medical exam to protect your health and well-being. SAFE exams are confidential, compassionate, and focused on you.
Call us anytime at 888-621-0047. We can help you find the nearest hospital, meet you there if you choose, and support you throughout the process. Your information will not be shared without your permission.
Reporting is your choice.
We will accompany you while you provide your statement to the police if you choose. The criminal justice system can feel overwhelming. We can help you with what to expect so that you can feel heard and prepared for what lies ahead.
*For minors there is no option not to report. Sexual activity or suspected sexual activity of minors must be reported to law enforcement and the Department of Family and Protective Services per Texas’ mandatory reporting laws. (Texas Family Code, Section 261.101) Call us for more information.
Domestic Violence
Am I Being Abused?
Abuse doesn’t always look the same. It may start with control, isolation, or fear — and it can grow over time. You may find yourself making excuses for your partner’s behavior or feeling like things are “not that bad.” If you feel unsafe, controlled, or afraid, it’s time to reach out for help.
Types of Abuse
- Psychological
- Emotional
- Physical
- Financial
- Spiritual
- Gaslighting
- Sexual
Warning Signs of Abuse
Does your partner:
- Put down your accomplishments or goals?
- Treat you roughly — grab, shove, or hit you?
- Constantly check up on you or show up unexpectedly?
- Blame you for their behavior?
- Pressure you sexually or force acts against your will?
Do you:
- Feel nervous or scared about how your partner will act?
- Make excuses for their behavior?
- Believe you can help them change if you change yourself?
- Avoid conflict to keep the peace?
- Stay because you’re afraid of what might happen if you leave?
The Duluth Model of Power
The Cycle of Abuse
Abuse often follows a repeating pattern known as The Cycle of Abuse, with phases of tension building, acute explosion, and reconciliation (the “honeymoon” phase), followed by denial before the cycle begins again.
Understanding this pattern can help you recognize what’s happening and begin planning for safety.
High-Risk Warning Signs
Certain abusive behaviors can indicate that a victim is at greater risk for more serious physical harm or death. It is important to recognize which behaviors indicate the likelihood of an increased risk of danger so you can plan for your safety.
- Threats to kill you, your children, relatives, or themselves
- Access to weapons or a history of using them
- Strangulation or airway restriction – increases homicide risk by 750% *
- Statements of ownership or control, such as “If I can’t have you, no one can.”
- Stalking, confinement, or abduction
- Violence during pregnancy
* Glass et al., “Non-fatal Strangulation Is an Important Risk Factor for Homicide of Women,” Journal of Emergency Medicine, Oct. 2008.
Child Abuse
Unexplained Injuries
Visible signs of physical abuse may include unexplained burns or bruises in the shape of objects. You may also hear unconvincing explanations of a child’s injuries.
Changes in Behavior
Abuse can lead to many changes in a child’s behavior. Abused children often appear scared, anxious, depressed, withdrawn or more aggressive.
Lack of Personal Care
Changes in Eating
The stress, fear and anxiety caused by abuse can lead to changes in a child’s eating behaviors, which may result in weight gain or weight loss.
Fear of Going Home
Abused children may express apprehension or anxiety about leaving school or about going places with the person who is abusing them.
Risk-Taking Behaviors
Returning to Earlier Behaviors
Changes in School Behavior
Changes in Sleeping
Inappropriate Sexual Behaviors
Children who have been sexually abused may exhibit overly sexualized behavior or use explicit sexual language. Some signs that a child is experiencing violence or abuse are more obvious than others. Trust your instincts. Suspected abuse is enough of a reason to contact the authorities. You do not need proof.
We Can Help
If you’re worried about your safety or someone else’s, call our 24/7 Hotline at 888-621-0047.
We can help with safety planning, emergency shelter, and ongoing support — all at no cost.
You are not alone. Help is available whenever you’re ready.
